A Bittersweet Womanhood: My Hysterectomy, Grief, and Counting it All Joy

“There’s grief in the decision. A decision you make with certainty and anticipation but also sadness and heartbreak. So much of our womanhood gets tied up in the existence of these internal parts we never see but are reminded of their existence once a month. If we desire, we know they are the key to motherhood. They remind us of our capabilities. Even if you don’t want children, there is a war on women’s bodies to keep everything “just in case.” But we deserve a choice. Even if that choice leaves us in mourning…”

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When Did You Feel It? On the Movement of Black Motherhood

While I never watched the video of George Floyd’s murder, hearing how [some non-POC] people were moved to action and reflection after hearing him use his final breath to call out to his mother, I began to wonder why did it take that moment for some people to feel the pain we’ve been expressing since slavery. It was equally intriguing to ponder as it was frustrating to witness this sudden moment of clarity. Motherhood moves us. Whether you have children or not, we all have mothers or mother figures who have shaped our experiences and our identity. We have stood in our roles as Aunts, Sisters, God Mothers to children we adore deeply and their existence moves us…

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MOTHERHOODCaneeka Miller